How To Get Your Family To Clean!

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Living in a family is warm and fuzzy, but let’s be honest, it also comes with its fair share of challenges, and one of the challenges that I hear about from you guys is how frustrating it is to get everyone on the same level when it comes to cleaning. Whether it’s parents talking about how to get your kids more involved in cleaning or spouses talking about the other person – who perhaps is overly tidy, or not tidy enough.

So let’s cover off seven different strategies to help you get your family in the groove when it comes to cleaning.

Now, before you get started with any of these strategies, you’ve got to keep in mind that you might have to have some uncomfortable conversations with your family, but if you can come together and have these conversations, I promise you, you will walk out better for it.

Common Goals

Understanding what clean means to each family member is an important starting point. The idea is to get everyone on the same page about cleaning and what it means to them. This way everybody else in the family will start to understand what the common vision and goal should be when it comes to a clean house.

So, that also means that if one spouse or partner is overly clean and the other one is overly messy, it helps for each of you to understand the other’s vision and then that way you can sort of come together and figure out a nice level playing field for the both of you.

MIA’s (Most Important Areas)

This is such an important concept to me that I actually made it the first step in the maker method, and it is basically the backbone of the book. Figuring out what your MIA’s are, is really important because, let’s be honest, you’re not going to clean your whole house all the time. I don’t and I don’t expect you to, but what makes sense is to figure out those areas that are really important to you. The ones that get that guttural reaction from you when you see it messy. It just drives you crazy and when you see it clean, it makes you feel good.

You need to sit down at the table with your family and everyone needs to talk about what’s important to them – their MIA’s. So, if it’s two spouses sitting down it will give the other person insight as to what they can do to keep their spouse happy and content when it comes to cleaning and organizing.

For example, in our house, the kitchen is really important to me as an MIA. Specifically, the kitchen sink, counter and dishwasher. If the dishwasher is still full and there are plates on the counter and the sink is dirty, it just freaks me out and I don’t like cooking in there. For Chad, the bedroom is an MIA, specifically, the bed and the bedroom floor which can get a little cluttered with laundry. So, I have to be respectful of that when it comes to Chad and I keep that in the back of my head so when I’m in the room, I always try to put my laundry away.

Who Likes To Do What

There’s no sense in assigning a cleaning task to someone if it’s going to make their blood boil. When you’re having this conversation figure out if there’s anything that needs to be done, an MIA or a cleaning task, that someone in the household actually likes doing – or doesn’t detest.

For example, you guys know by now, I hate vacuuming. So, guess who doesn’t vacuum unless there’s a vacuuming emergency? That’s right, me! On the other hand, I clean the kitchen (like a champion!) and Chad doesn’t really have to worry about it because I like doing it.

Challenging Routines or Spaces

This is basically the time where you air out your dirty laundry with your family. You get everything out in the open, you tell them if you think something is going to be overly time-consuming, or frustrating, or difficult – because if you keep it in and then agree to do something that’s not really doable – this won’t lead to anything positive for you or your family.So, you

So you have to be frank, and you have to be honest. Get everything out on the table and then talk through everything. If there’s a bunch of cleaning tasks that no one really likes doing but it’s clearly something that needs to be done, consider something creative like putting all of the tasks in a hat everybody draws one out until you run out of tasks. Sorty of like a “cleaning draft”.

The point is, it has to be fair, it has to feel equitable, and you have to talk about it so that everyone feels good.

Tweak Your Routines

A family cleaning routine is a living breathing thing. It’s going to evolve over time. People might take tasks on and realize that it’s too painful physically for them to do, or maybe just it’s too time-consuming. So, as you go through and you set up this cleaning you have to really feel it out for yourself, customize it, put it together and then tweak it and change it along the way. There is no one right answer!

This is how you come up with a cleaning routine that really works, and if you can do this, everyone in the family will be much happier and more productive.

Consider Your Timing

Timing is a critical discussion point when it comes to cleaning because we’re all busy people. You’ve got a whole bunch of things going on during the week and you probably don’t have a ton of hours to carve out to focus on cleaning! There are some of you out there – and I know this to be true and it’s something that a lot of people guys deal with -who might not clean at all and you’re thinking, how can I go from zero to a hundred and get everyone cleaning right now?

The truth is I’m not telling you that you need to get yourself up to two hours of cleaning every week. If you can get yourself to ten minutes of cleaning, a week, you’re making an incremental improvement. So, when it comes to timing, be realistic about what time you have available during the week and when you can spend that time. Whether it’s late at night, early in the morning or on a weekend, whatever works for you and your family (and your schedule) is what you should allocate.

If you have unrealistic expectations or have an all-or-nothing mentality, you’re never going to get any cleaning done and you’re just going to feel like you’ve failed before you even got started. So, set the bar low, you have my permission, meet that baseline and then creep it up little by little.

Schedule the Larger Jobs

When I used to work at the bank, we had this annual strategic planning session where we would look at the overall goals and larger events for the year. It basically gave everyone in the branch the opportunity to look a year in advance and schedule and plan out the things that they needed to do to contribute to the growth of the organization.

When it comes to cleaning, you can apply this idea as well. You can sit down with your family and have strategic “cleaning meeting” where you can think about the larger cleaning tasks that need to be done. For example, what are you going to do for spring cleaning? How frequently are you going to clean your appliances, or clean the garage?

Whatever it is, if you just leave them, they really aren’t going to get done because no one feels accountable to them.  However, if you sit down and have a planning meeting, you’ll be able to book in dates and times and assign tasks to people, and then it’s booked, it’s done, and everyone knows what they need to do.

I hope these tips were helpful, and trust me – if you stick to these basic principles it will keep your household running like a well-oiled machine.

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Melissa Maker is an entrepreneur, cleaning expert, founder of Toronto’s most popular boutique cleaning service, and star of the Clean My Space channel on YouTube (but she still hates to clean!). Every week, Melissa delivers new videos dishing expert advice on cleaning products, tools, DIY substitutes, and practical, timesaving solutions to everyday problems. Melissa has appeared on the Today Show, and has been featured in InStyle, Real Simple, and Better Homes and Gardens.


  1. Oh. I thought when I first read the subject line of the e-mail that it said “How To Get Your Family Clean!” If you follow the link to the product I used to sell, you’ll see why I would’ve been interested in that (if I were still in biz).


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